Now that I've experienced pregnancy and childbirth and am in the process of experiencing motherhood, when I talk to other mothers about what's going on (the good and the bad) they all say, "Oh yeah the same thing happened to me" or "Yeah, I had a hard time with that too". Really?! Why isn't anyone telling people this stuff? I think it's important to know that you are not alone in your struggles and joys and that there have been other women that have gone before you and have experienced the same things. So here are some things that I've learned that may or may not have been told to me by other mothers before they happened to me:
- Pregnancy does not always equal morning sickness (or all day sickness), outrageous cravings or massive amounts of stretch marks.
- I was no longer able to sleep on my stomach or back (not that I was ever a stomach or back sleeper, but just knowing I couldn't made it worse) and sleeping on your sides starts to hurt after awhile.
- Towards the end, it starts being uncomfortable.
- Contractions don't always start from the top of the uterus and work its way down.
- Labor is scary. Delivery is even scarier.
- Breastfeeding is not always easy and does not always come naturally.
- Natural childbirth will make you walk funny for a few days.
- Every theory I had about parenting went out the window as soon as we brought Aaron home.
- The meals that people bring over are one of the best gifts anyone can give new parents.
- You will wake up and check on your baby to make sure he is still alive.
- Parenting is unreal.
- Your kid really is the most beautiful thing in the world.
- The nastiest things in adults are the most adorable in your child.
- You truly have a better idea of how the Lord sees you as one of His children when you have your own.
That's all I can think of right now. I'm sure there are more and as I come across them, I'll probably add them to another blog. For my friends out there that are wanting to become parents, I hope this helps and I hope you find comfort in knowing that whatever struggles you may have, you are not alone. Don't be afraid to talk about your struggles with other people, because I'm sure someone, somewhere along the way had the exact same thing happen to them and they might be a great source of comfort, support, and knowledge for you. Parenting is not all rainbows and sunshine all the time. It's hard, it's frustrating, it's heartbreaking, it's rewarding, and it's fun. Hope this helped or gave insight. If not, oh well. It was great therapy for me to get it out.